One of the most intimate gifts a partner can give, the sending of naked pictures, is common and often encouraged between romantic partners.  These private photos bring closeness and an increased sense of sexuality to couples, inspiring naughty thoughts and naughtier deeds.  But what happens when a couple splits? What should you do with naked pictures of an ex?   As celebrities like Rhianna, Vanessa Hudgens and Jamie Foxx have all found out, naked photos can be a dangerous item to leave in the hands of untrustworthy people.  Photos, whether virtual or printed, can be seen by unwanted eyes and even broadcast to mass audiences leading to the ruin of reputations and lives. When a relationship ends badly, especially when it involves cheating, sexual photos are an obvious weapon. While the photos may have once brought intimacy, they can just as easily be turned into entertainment for a scorned ex and their friends – or worse, the viewers of a Facebook page or pornographic site.  It is never moral or ethical to put pictures online or to show friends. This blatant violation of trust is rare and malicious, but not unheard of.  So when giving pictures, be sure to discuss privacy beforehand, making it very clear how hurtful it would be for someone else to see the photos and make it explicitly clear that they are not to be shown off.    This discussion of privacy will be beneficial, but beware, because when emotions are high all promises of security may go out the window. To prevent a backlash, try to give only pictures with explicit sexuality rather than blatant nudity, like lingerie/bathing suit and underwear shots, or photos without a face.  These pictures will still be embarrassing if released, but will not be as scarring as the mass viewing of your genitalia in the same picture as your face.   Going one step further, perhaps the greatest form of protection is the collection of collateral.  Never underestimate anyone, but also don’t be underestimated.  Stick to the old saying “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours” and make the photos a shared experience.  With this security safety net, there is much smaller chance of misuse and exposure, as both partners will have a fear of retaliation after misuse.